"My own feeling is that we've pushed women too far,"
says Dr. T. Berry Brazelton, the 80 year old Harvard University
doctor who is frequently called "America's Pediatrician,"
in a recent interview in the Los Angles Times. "We've split
them in two, and we have not given them back anything to support
themselves on either end." He has witnessed what forcing
the women into the workforce and the breakdown of the family have
done to the American children. "I just think our country
is in deep, deep trouble," he agonizes.
Opinion leaders of all persuasions agree. Ask America's First
Lady, who considers herself a champion of women's and children's
causes. In her 1996 book, "It Takes a Village," she
offers this assessment: "… children's potential lost
to sprit-crushing poverty, children's health lost to unaffordable
care, children's hearts lost in divorce and custody fights, children's
futures lost in an overburdened foster care system, children's
lives lost to abuse and violence, our society lost to itself as
we fail our children." This is a society in which by her
account: "homicide and suicide kill almost seven thousand
children every year; one in four of all children are born to unmarried
mothers, many of whom are children themselves; and 135,000 children
bring guns to school each day. Children in every social stratum
suffer from abuse, neglect, and preventable emotional problems."
She also approvingly quotes: "If you bungle raising your
children, I don't think whatever else you do matters very much."
It is obvious that America as a nation, has bungled this thoroughly.
Welcome to the dark side of "Women's Emancipation."
Today women are free in America. Free from the protection of a
home and the support of a husband who would be responsible to
provide for them. They are on their own. In turn, the children
have been freed from the rigidities of the traditional home, where
father and mother provide for them, take care of them, and guide
them. The children are also on their own. Just in case they do
not like it, the society has been experimenting with all kinds
of poultry farms ---day care they call them---to take care of
Things have gone so wrong for so long that everyone has lost all
hope that the society can rectify it completely and retrace its
steps. Hillary Clinton admits: "My personal wish, that every
child have an intact, dependable family, will likely remain a
wish." So, she is just trying to build a better poultry farm
with the help of the whole village. Dr. Brazelton knows that the
children need the mother at home. "I think you are giving
a gift to the child when you stay home with him as long as you
can." However, he knows that it cannot be very long, as,
to stay home, "being just a mother," is not good enough
any more. He knows the psychological crisis faced by the stay-at-home
mothers, so he pleads with everyone to do as much as they can.
Now contrast this with the U.N. edict that the women in the rest
of the world, especially the Muslim world, must take up all kinds
of jobs outside the home; that the goal should be their total
economic independence. In other words, women must be forced outside
the home so they are no longer available to take care of the children
within the home. They must be "liberated" from the home,
so they can enjoy the same fruits of "emancipation"
as the women are "enjoying" in the U.S.
The destruction of the family in America, or the West in general,
was not planned. It just happened as a logical result of the materialistic,
hedonistic, Godless civilizational values that have gripped these
societies. But the U.N. decree that the rest of the world must
follow the same disastrous path, is something else. It is as if
a person lost an eye to horseplay, and now wants everyone else
to voluntarily have an eye removed!
It is unconscionable that we should be answering such chicanery
with apologetics of the kind that normally begin with, "Islam
also allows women to," as in, "Islam also allows women
to work outside the home." Yes, it does in case of necessity,
but that is beside the point. The real issue is that Islam frees
a wife from the burden to provide for the family. It is solely
the husband's responsibility. In return, wife's main responsibility
is to stay home and take care of the children. The primary field
of women's endeavor is the home, sweet home. And this has to be
stated without hesitation or apology. The Qur'an says: "And
stay quietly in your homes."[Al-Ahzab, 33:33]. And the Prophet,
Sall-Allahu alayhi wa sallam, said: "The wife is responsible
for taking care of the home of her husband, and she will be accountable
for those given in her charge."[Bukhari, Muslim]. This is
also the most rewarding job that anyone can think of. The Prophet,
Sall-Allahu alayhi wa sallam, assured the woman who stays home
to take care of the children, that she would be with him in paradise.
According to another hadith, during pregnancy and the entire period
of nursing, the believing mother is like the soldier on active
duty. If she dies, she gets the reward reserved for a martyr.
Yet another hadith says to the women: "Take care of the home.
That is your jihad." [Musnad Ahmad].
All of these clearly establish the basic division of labor between
men and women according to Islam: men are responsible for the
affairs outside the home and the women are responsible for taking
care of the home. This division is not a relic of some dark past.
It is the only basis on which a healthy society has ever been
built and can be built today. The nations that have tried to alter
this natural arrangement long enough have nothing but grief and
trouble to show for their efforts. And they seem to be groping
in the dark, unable to undo the damage and get out of the quagmire.
Is there any sane reason that those who have the Light should
follow them on the dark highway to disaster?